To Be Better Than…


There’s nothing wrong with a little competition to put a fire under you to step up your game…

not to be better than they are but to expand yourself. To be the best you can be.

Years ago when I sang for a local non-profit organization, this was very important to me. Believe it or not, I wasn’t very competitive with the other performers.

I used to think to myself “I’m the wrong type of person for this.” Like something was wrong with me – being different than most. But being competitive made me feel bad and not being competitive didn’t stop me from working to improve. I respect others who are talented and by that admiration – it pushed me to want to improve so I could be the best version of myself. I still utilize this philosophy in my life today.

Do you think it is possible to do this or do you feel there are times when competing against another is necessary? I’d love to hear your thoughts.

Love, light, & blessings to you,


Emotional Mold

Sunshine in sky

Unattended negative thoughts and emotions seep into your subconscious.

Imagine standing in the bathroom watching the bathtub overflow with water as it escapes over the side and starts flooding the floor. The water damage will start leaking through, causing more damage into walls and floor boards, if left unattended, this will produce mold.

You can turn the facet off, drain the tub, and mop the water but what if the water damage is deeper? Or this continually happens over a long period of time? You are going to have water damage and mold. If the mold is left to grow and is unattended, it can create health issues.

You can put a rug down and paint over it but the water damage is still within the walls and floor boards. It won’t just disappear because you ignore it, you have to break open the layers and repair them.  

You can skirt around, distract, cover up, pass the buck, numb out – but it’s impossible to hide from yourself. 

Emotions that drive fear within us become emotional mold. If it isn’t love then it is fear. 

Fear (from Iyanla Vanzant)

1 – Losing someone’s love or rejection.

2 – Powerless – Helpless – Not Safe or Vulnerable

3 – Loss of Control

4 – Not being seen as valuable, worthy, or necessary.

You must find the strength to open the wounds, stick your hands inside, pull out the core of the pain that is holding you in your past, the memories, and make peace with them.”                                                                                                                                                                     ~Iyanla Vanzant

If an emotion rises up when you think or speak about a person or circumstance, it needs your attention. There is work to be done to get to the heart of the matter. 

Why does it upset you? Where is that coming from? What is the trigger? Is it true? Is it time to address and clear some emotional mold?

Love, Light, & Blessings to you,




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“Bless everyone and everything that represents what you want! Blessing is effective in changing your life or getting what you want for three reasons: First of all, the positive focus of your mind stirs up the positive, creative force of the Power of the Universe. Secondly, it moves your own energy outward, allowing more of the Power to come through you. Thirdly, when you bless for the benefit of others instead of directly for yourself, you tend to bypass any subconscious fears about what you want for yourself, and also the very focus on the blessing acts to increase the same good in your life. What is so beautiful about this process is that the blessing you do for others helps them as well as you.” ~Serge Kahili King

Real or Ego?


Are you reacting from a place of ego or is it deeper? Is it coming from a thought in your head or something more? To understand this, first we have to identify what ego is.



-I am what I have.

-I am what I do.

-I am what other people think.

-I am separate from you.

-I am what’s missing from my life.

-Doesn’t like to be vulnerable.

-Doesn’t like not having control.

-Likes to be angry.

-Feeds on conflict.

This helps me, identify quickly that I’m reacting from my ego. Most thoughts that stem from ego begin with,“How dare you…speak to me that way or treat me that way. Or “Who do you think you are?” Feeling this way towards another is probably being directed from an angry place and you are offended in some way.

We’ve all been guilty of this. I just didn’t know when to recognize it before. I thought for years that ego was someone who walked around like they were better than you or bragged a lot. This is a form but ego, by definition, is larger than just that. Sometimes it can be more challenging to recognize it but if you have a larger understanding of your true-self then it becomes clearer.

How do we know if we are coming from a place of ego or something deeper? 

This is how I gauge it:

I really pay attention to my thoughts and emotions. By being in tune to this, I monitor my reactions and delve deeper. Sometimes, I have to step away to have time to not react. If I’m trying to separate myself from that person as if I am better than they are, it’s my ego. If I can look at their actions or words from a place of empathy, I know that it something real. If something really struck me in a painful way, I try to understand this within myself.

Obviously, if they’re triggering me, there’s something I need to address in my subconscious. I turn away from justifying it with thinking, it’s because they did such and such to me. The real work isn’t trying to figure someone else out, it’s knowing who you truly are. Knowing your true-self is knowing that your identity is of your own inner spirit. When I’m able to identify this, I understand the other person or situation more. I then know if this is a person or circumstance that I can walk away from peacefully and sometimes permanently.

Please share, if you have more to add or comment.

Love, Light, & Blessings,